Thursday, June 10, 2010

Guest Blogger: Can a Man Change?

Submitted by A.B.C. Analyst

A few days ago I got a Facebook message from an old girlfriend telling me that a guy from high school wanted my number. I blindly respond to her request asking no questions and having no idea who it might be. She gave me a break down and who it was and I guess my curiosity caused me to reach out to him. I told him I wasn't interested but he would not take no for an answer. His persistency is beginning to ware me down. He continues to explain to me how much he cares about me, never stopped thinking about me and wants me to be his girl. He then went on to ask "what do you want, what do you need?" Questions, I am just really not use to EVER hearing from a man let alone a man that I was once head over heels for.

I'm totally myself around him and he always knows how to make me smile. He assures me that he would be faithful and he's a different man from high school. He says, "If I knew a quarter of the things I know now you would have been my girl and I would have been married you by now."

Here's a little background info: In high school we weren't together but he was the first guy I fell for (we were talking for a few months) and first guy to break my heart after finding out he slept with a girl friend of mine and had a girlfriend at the time. Being that we were "low key" my girl friend had no idea he and I were talking. Granted this was high school and we are both adults now I am still skeptical. I'm torn on whether or not I want to open that door again? You never forget your first broken heart.

Ladies so what do you do when an old boo contacts you and basically says, "I messed up can you give me another chance."


silent scorpio said...

My mother always told me, if you can only change people while they're in diapers. It's kinda true I guess, but being the hopeless romantic I am, I tend to think love change change people. Good luck in your choices.

Kristin H. said...

First of all, eventhough the girl friend didn't know you were talking, he did! So that was wrong. A man will only change if he really wants to, so it is possible. I think that the two of you should just be friends for a while so you can get to know him again. If he really cares about you then he should be understanding of that. Then if you decide to date him and he messes up, kick his ass to the curb!!!!

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